Happiness - Being Positive!

My first post... the way I see the blog - it is flow of thoughts with one's own identity. So I am going to write without thinking too much... no draft, direct gyaan. Enough warning... please continue at your own risk!

All of us want to be happy, cheerful all the time - is it possible? It is possible when things work in favor of us but the big question is can we be happy when things aren't working very well? I thought a lot about it like anyone else and as a true six sigma black belt, I wanted to find out the factors that influences happiness and the first one came to my mind - "Being Positive - ALL THE TIME".

My definition of being positive - taking the situation as it comes without thinkining too much about what went wrong in the past, taking the learnings anything if applicable and carrying forward - also in this whole process, without hurting anyone including ourself. Again there are certain things which are in our control and some are not in our control such as things triggered by nature. Being positive is how to face a situation irrespective of who caused it and how.

The first step is for being positive is to convince ourself that we are going to be positive. This is very important as if we do not believe in some thing, we just can't or rather I would say we shouldn't do it.

Once we make up and determined that we are going to be positive - then let us analyze the situation. Remember, being positive is not running from that situation - it is facing but without that situation affecting us. When we analyze the situation, below are two questions we should ask ourselves:
- Can we do something about it to reduce the impact?
- What we need to do to avoid this in the future?
Basically we have understood why it happened and trying to do something about it in the future. That's all - it sounds simple, isn't it? But still why there is negative energy around - let us talk about it little bit.

All of us know the basic rule what I have written above - but why at times we choose the other way? Venting out is easy and it feels good - it is short term happiness whose life is shorter. We don't want to take responsible to fix up certain things and those times, taking either neutral or negative way seems to be better - but remember... the symptoms are gone but the wound is there deep inside.

Whatever we spoke about so far is being positive on situations which aren't triggered naturally. There are situations such as loved one's death or disease. Can we still be positive? yes... same question - can we do something about what happened? absolutely not... can we do something about it in the future - yes, think about the good memories left by that person or concentrating on the medication. Remember, being positive is definitely going to help in speedy recovery.

Positiveness is going to take a long way - because it needs guts and lot of patience. Also you will be seen as crazy or someone insensible to that situation when you tackle it positively. But hey who cares? you decided to be positive and no one can stop it expect you.

Being positive is contagious... and that is the very first step to be happy!!